Posted by: matt25 | August 17, 2012

Marriage and Divorce WDJS (What Did Jesus Say)

It should come as no surprise that there is a failure to have a political consensus on what the definition of marriage is. Different groups advocate for different things frequently demonizing anyone who disagrees with them. The most recent example in the news being the Dan Cathy controversy. Although to be honest, I am not sure what is controversial about a Southern Baptist, on a Southern Baptist talk show, saying he supports a Southern Baptist viewpoint. But I suppose it was more about trying to make an example of a big target and punish any exercise of freedom of religion that falls outside of the scope of the more restrictive phrase freedom of worship that some prefer to speak of. But that may be a topic for another day.

The Gospel reading today is Matthew 19:3-12. The Pharisees test Jesus about marriage and divorce. He replies

“Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator made them male and female and said, For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, man must not separate.”

He also said

“Because of the hardness of your hearts Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) and marries another commits adultery.”

Even his disciples find this a tough pill to swallow and said to him,

“If that is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”

He answered them with complete understanding of human nature and the nature of faith, which is gift,

“Not all can accept this word, but only those to whom that is granted. Some are incapable of marriage because they were born so; some, because they were made so by others; some, because they have renounced marriage for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven. Whoever can accept this ought to accept it.”

I accept this and try to live it to the best of my ability with the help of God’s grace. If you don’t accept this, please try not to be shocked as a simple and sinful Catholic Deacon, on his humble blog, agrees with a Catholic viewpoint on marriage. The intersection of my faith and reason about sex and sexuality is not about prudish restrictions from some uptight uncomfortable place. It is about embracing sexuality within the context of the calling to union with God, and in harmony with the order of creation. This means that marriage can only truly be between one man and one woman, becoming one flesh, open to the miracle of life, in complete and mutual self giving, until death do us part.

If you have the heart for it, offer a prayer for my wife and I that we may be blessed with joy in our marriage for all of the days that remain to us.

Peace to you and your house.

Scripture citations from the New American Bible, Revised Edition


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